Learnhypnokink

Introduction (And other information)

(If you’re reading my notes, I’m just taking little bits and pieces I found interesting from the site. At the time of reading, I’m 14 books in to learning about this stuff. There’s a lot of great information on this site, but regurgitating a fifth hypnosis negotiation framework isn’t going to help me learn a lot.)

https://www.learnhypnokink.com

TL;DR, hypnosis is:

Using any kind of communication to play with someone’s focus, thoughts, and feelings as tools to make people experience amazing things.

• sleepingirl and GleefulAbandon

• If something feels off or odd, stop. Abreaction doesn’t (and shouldn’t) be the only reason to pause.

7: How to hypnotize someone

(Here’s a few neat notes worth keeping. Again, if you’re coming from outside, just read the guide. )

Grab-bag of pacing and leading starters

What their physical body is doing/feeling Sitting? Laying down? Reading? Breathing? Eyes open or closed? Gravity? Temperature? Texture? What emotions they might be having Excited? Nervous? Turned on? Anticipating? Focused? What their attention is focused on You? Your words? Their own thoughts? Their body? Something specific you just mentioned?

Give time for your pacing statements to settle in. According to the guide part of it’s effectiveness is your pacing statement’s ability to shift focus. This automatic shift leads into experiential changes. Don’t forget to highlight to new subjects they should watch for subtle shifts in their experience.

[!info] Trance / deepener suggestions Focus Relaxation/limpness Tension/stiffness/excitement Fuzziness in head/vision/body Tingling Heaviness Lightness Thoughts slowing, quickening, wandering Vision darkening/brightening

9 and 10: Suggestion Style Intro, Utilization, and Cold Reading

I like the idea of starting with these four suggestion styles, mentioned on the site.

Suggestion Styles:

Direct: “You will feel x”, “You are feeling x”, “Now, you feel x”, “Feel x now”, “You’re going to feel x”

Indirect: “Perhaps you feel x”, “Can you imagine feeling x”, “You can feel x”, “I wonder if you might feel x”

Explicit: “…feel my hands stroking you.”, “…notice my control over you.”, “…your eyes close now.”, “…imagine ropes binding you.”

Ambiguous: “…what are you feeling between your legs?”, “…notice your thoughts shifting under my words.” , “…there’s a change in the way your eyes feel.”, “…imagine a stillness slowly sinking into your body.”

They also mention using Barnum statements, or things that are usually true, for pacing. This can include restarting their desires (It’s okay to have lots of different thoughts about your desires,) their wants (and you want to feel good for me, don’t you?,) or even just letting them know that they’re doing well “I know you’re worried about doing the right thing, and that’s okay to feel that, but your responses are your own, so there’s no way to get it wrong.”

A bit further down in psychological experiences, they suggest just talking about change. Such as, “I know that you’re going through some changes in the way that you’re feeling right now as you listen to my words.” Or… “Did you notice how when I talked about your legs relaxing, you focused more on your body?”

Continuing that, just talking about experiencing something will allow you to suggest that their body is responding as well.

“I wonder what kind of responses it’ll make when I tell you (x)…“

11 Suggestions on Suggestions

Overall, ensure that you say that while it doesn’t feel exactly the same, it can still be immersive and intense. However they are experiencing your suggestions is correct. Some ‘sexier’ ways to put this include…

Sexy ways to say “This isn’t real, but it’s hot as fuck:”

“The suggestions I give you might feel like a weird kind of dream” “Your brain is going to imagine this in intense detail” “It’s almost like an immersive daydream, like an illusion” “You can accept that the things you see and feel are created by your mind”

12: Cleaning up safely

Some neat ideas here about cleaning up after a wild ride! I think this is a bit strong for the level of play suggested in learnhypnokink, but I’m happy to add this to my tool bag.

Encapsulation

It’s obvious to suggest boundaries like just for the rest of the night, but going further such as getting their cooperation with something like “and now we are going to wrap these suggestions up, ensuring you’re comfortable, ensuring things are moving back to normal easily and effortlessly.” It’s also a handy technique to reframe memories with something like “and as you remember that fantasy of being a submissive kobold, you can let these memories have just as much control over you as any of your other memories, like going to the grocery store, or what you watched on youtube last week.”

Personal tip

I get a lot of crushes that bleed outside of the session. Another ‘tist suggested saying “I hope you’ve enjoyed your session” and it’s helped delineate the relationship clearly.

Softening the blow

Sometimes, the end of a scene can be a big crash! As long as you’re genuine, you can say things like “If you had this much fun, we can always do this again, maybe even better.” Or, saying this is just a break, or we’ll come back to this, or that you’re looking forward to doing this again. Or, wrapping it in with other suggestions like “and even though these suggestions are only effective for this session, that just means that the next time we do this, it can become even stronger, and these feelings will be even easier to access.”

Ratify

You can give them a suggestion of how it’d be like to experience the suggestion now, out of trance. Like “can you see yourself just remembering this scene fondly?“

13: Useful tech

Fractionation

Our favorite tool fractionation is already used to bring someone in and out of trance. But I haven’t (as of writing) tried using it in the frame of other suggestions, like freezing or feelings.

‘Waking’ or responsive trance

You can mash a few buttons to help your partner feel more responsive in trance:

• Give them permission, and link it to their trance
• Tell them to open their eyes on trance (a favorite with catalepsy)
• Link a response - after you speak, you’ll find yourself dropping in deeper
• Suggest disassociation when it happens (sorta like ‘tell me something you need me to know’)

14: Setting Up for Success

Abusing checking

Why not use their anxiety to strengthen their chance?

• “When you wonder to yourself if you’re hypnotized, you can find that there are little sensations of trance that you maybe didn’t notice before”
• “When you wonder if you’re hypnotized, you can hear a little voice echoing in your head in a hypnotized voice, saying ‘yes’”
• “You might find part of your mind asking if you’re hypnotized, but as you listen to me you can feel that part of you sinking deep into trance, too”
• “There are signs of hypnosis that take some time to recognize, so if you find yourself looking inwards and wondering, be curious about what you might find”

You don’t have to do anything

Outside of this guide, a phrase I like is “There’s nothing you need to do, there’s nothing you need to say, you don’t even need to consciously listen to the sound of my voice.”

• “You don’t need to put in effort to respond the way you respond to hypnosis”
• “You don’t need to do anything particular to go deeper”
• “Your mind is going to do things without you even trying”

Agency Suggestion Grab-Bag

Of course, suggesting a subject has agency in trance can help folks anxious about going in to go in deeper. A favorite tip I learned is suggesting that “because you know that your safeties work, why not drop deeper…”

• “If there’s anything you need to tell me, understand that your brain can make it happen”
• “Let yourself know that you can comfortably reject suggestions that you don’t want to follow”
• “You can take control of your own experience at any time”